Imagine a fictional situation where YOU were unfaithful to your own bf/gf/husband/wife ONCE (you regret having done it but you considered not to tell him/her anything at the end for X reason) AND a close friend that you both have in common KNOWS it:
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433 deviants saidIf you decide not to tell your partner anything for X reason, that friend is NOT WHO to tell anything to your partner at all and must respect your decission, it's your and your partner's responsibility exclusively 'cause only you two know eachother
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222 deviants saidIf you decide not to tell it to your partner for X reason,that close friend in common should tell it to your partner, as a good friend of your partner he/she also is. You deserve it anyway and your partner has the right to know if he/she has been betrayed
If you were the one being betrayed, then would you really want to be completely ignorant??? Sure, the person who betrayed them may never be forgiven but isn't it cruel, to be completely ignorant to the betrayal?? to have total and complete trust in someone who doesn't desserve it?
The friend should definently say something it would be cruel not to, and if the friend doesn't say anything they'd have to live with the guilt of also betraying this person
ummmh... If I'm having a partner, think I will tell him by myself. I made a HUGE mistake, and I have to pay my consequences. And if he forgive me, I will never do that mistake again. If he does not forgive me, well, that's my punishment , and the price I must pay. I do think I have to be responsible for my own mistake, or I will never grown up. And come to think about it, hiding will never do any good. sooner or latter, he'll find out, and it will cause even more damage.
I think that the friend should definitely tell! They owe it to both people involved. But I do think they should let the person know they're going to tell before they do to give that person a last chance to tell their partner themselves.
pretty much idk WHAT should I do cuz I would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend... cuz hes pretty much my first and I would never do anything to hurt him.. I would actually tell him.. but..mehehehehe... I would still NEVER cheat qq but if I would make such a mistake I would tell him..I might be unfaithful, but I would never lie and keep secret from him..
My friend once cheating on her very LOYAL boyfriend whom I was both friends with. He was nice to her, bought her gifts without her asking, told her how beautiful she was everyday, how much he loved her and everything.
Main point; I told him. :/. If you hurt your partner like that, they should know, if you not only cheat but don't tell, your just..bleh. I'd expect my friend to tell, if not, thier a terrible friend.
Niether. I'd rather tell my partner what I did and apologize, even if that confession ends the relationship. I'd want the same thing if the situation was the other way around.
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Sure, the person who betrayed them may never be forgiven
but isn't it cruel, to be completely ignorant to the betrayal?? to have total and complete trust in someone who doesn't desserve it?
The friend should definently say something
it would be cruel not to, and if the friend doesn't say anything they'd have to live with the guilt of also betraying this person
If he does not forgive me, well, that's my punishment , and the price I must pay.
I do think I have to be responsible for my own mistake, or I will never grown up.
And come to think about it, hiding will never do any good.
sooner or latter, he'll find out, and it will cause even more damage.
Plus, We're having a holiday in the UK soon to se some friends, Which so far will be ending in a threeway. ;D
Main point; I told him. :/. If you hurt your partner like that, they should know, if you not only cheat but don't tell, your just..bleh. I'd expect my friend to tell, if not, thier a terrible friend.